未来

与其担心未来，不如现在好好努力,
这条路上，只有奋斗才能给你安全感。

不要轻易把梦想寄托在某个人身上，也不要太在乎身旁的耳语，
因为未来是你自己的，只有你自己能给自己最大的安全感。

别忘了答应自己要做的事，别忘记自己想去的地方，
不管那有多难，有多远。

偶陣雨

過去總算漸漸都還過得去
未來就等來了再決定
回憶多少還留一點點餘地
還不至於回不去

誰的青春沒有淺淺的瘀青
誰的傷心能不留胎記
誰的一見鍾情不刻骨銘心
誰能任性不認命

你的嘴角微微揚起
你用微笑剪接我的微電影
偶爾饒了我自己
偶爾難免還想你
偶爾晴時多雲偶爾有陣雨

我的下巴微微仰起
不讓淚滴主演我的微電影
你是微醺的上集
你是微妙的下集
你是未完待續當局者的謎

你是微醺的上集
你是微妙的下集

我的下巴微微仰起
不讓淚滴主演我的微電影
你是微醺的上集
你是微妙的下集
你是未完待續當局者的謎

誰的一見鍾情不刻骨銘心, but it doesn't last long..  All in memory...

还是，你。

久违没见到你，我们大概失去联络有两年了吧？ 你避开我也有一段日子了。

也不知你哪来的勇气，发了个短讯给我，而我，也回你了，就这样，两条平行线有了交接。

我说：“要不见个面？” 你也爽快地答应了。我顿了下，想不到你那么快想也不想的答应我了。脑里闪过你的最后一个情景，让我犹豫不决了起来。我想，一切会好的。

你开着你的车子到家门口接我；一步一步地走向你那，心就会不由自主地担心起来。担心，我会不会给了你假希望？

一如往常，有说有笑, 你还是老样子，没变。不知我有没有改变了，可是，我对你的友谊是不会变的。你呢？

笑谈着近况，你好像找到了你人生目标，还真替你开心。而我，想着这残酷的世界，对你苦笑着。不太喜欢你叫我大律师。

大概是你一贯的作风，兜圈子永远是你的玩意儿。大概知道你想问些什么，但你始终没开口。。还是老样子。就算到了最后一刻，你都没说。以你的性格，你爱所有事都放在你掌控之内。

离别前的那一刻，见到你眼里的我，感觉到你的依依不舍，你仿佛把全世界的我看在眼里，记在心里。你发短讯给我，说我依然那么自然，可爱。我知道了。

或许这是错误的时刻，或许只是际遇，或许是命运的安排。还是一样，不想你浪费时间和心思在不对的人。

罗曼蒂克的熏陶下，往往让人失去理性。女孩嘛，还是喜欢鲜花，礼物，温柔和殷勤。迷茫，或许只是那一刻。而那一刻，是会永远放在心底，一辈子慢慢地想念，慢慢地回味。这样，已经足够了，不是吗？

可是，你要的，不是那样。我知道，但我该如何告诉你呢？是我自私，还是你固执？你说是你固执。四年了，还要固执下去吗？我不懂。与其说是你固执，不如说是你放不下你的执著。我尊重你的决定，但，你也尊重我的想法好吗？你，明白的，不是吗？

Boss..?

No matter how good ur boss is, boss is still a boss....

Boss will not care bout ur work, ur life, ur financial, ur difficulty, n also ur need.
Boss can insist that he is right, but u can't.
When u did something wrong, u must apologize, but boss can escape this part, n u forever cannot mention in front of him...
Boss can direct u, force u to do something tat u don't like, something happens that is not in ur job scope, n unpaid.
Boss forever feel that he pay u well, when u not enough to spend.
Boss pay u, so u work die for him.

Well, boss is boss.. Nothing to do v good or bad.... BOSS STILL BOSS!

爱的傻子

等爱的人很多，爱，是等回来的吗？

谁能让谁，幸福到结尾？

来听一听，一个傻子的故事。。。就让我这样到老。

一路走来

Do not, for one repulse, forgo the purpose that you resolved to effort.

小时候的梦想，只能在长大时实现。 一天天的长大，一天天累积的努力，一天天的和理想接近。

长大了，理想接近了。。 只要再努力一点点，勇敢地踏出九步，很快就到达啦！

朋友问我：你达到你的理想了，什么感觉？

实在的，我只能说：没有遗憾了。。 

坚持是一件很困难的苦差，天晓得我得熬多久，撑多久。。撑住了，又发现不稳，所以，选择做，来干个精彩的！Always remember y we insisted for so long.... 想做就做，人生所尝试的是自己的，不敢试的是遗憾。。just follow ur heart, will do...

Beloved, u~

作詞：林建良
作曲：方炯鑌

看你沉沉的睡去 忍不住緊抱著你
孩子般的無邪安寧 幸福就那麼篤定
突然想寫一封信 給我最親愛的你
看你不畏懼 一股傻勁 有時候多不忍心
夜裡無聲眼淚 驚天動地 我心疼你
為何倔強執迷 半夢半醒
你說再多打擊也不放棄

也曾失望傷過心 你總相信 那片烏雲會散去
從沒變的孩子氣 常讓我生氣卻又著迷
就算冷言傷了你 卻不曾逃避
橫衝直撞 也不管受了委屈
我會守護你 那顆赤子的心 永遠不分離

突然想寫一封信 給我最親愛的你
看你不畏懼 一股傻勁 有時候多不忍心
夜裡無聲眼淚 驚天動地 我心疼你
為何倔強執迷 半夢半醒
你說再多打擊也不放棄

也曾失望傷過心 你總相信 那片烏雲會散去
從沒變的孩子氣 常讓我生氣卻又著迷
就算冷言傷了你 卻不曾逃避
橫衝直撞 也不管受了委屈
我會守護你 那顆赤子的心 永遠不分離

夢和現實的差距 有的時候讓你感到灰心
世界無情 只要記得我在這裡陪你

我最最親愛的你 擦去淚滴 那片烏雲已散去
我們一起走下去 一起笑著看沿途風景
我最最親愛的你 最真的一句
永遠守著愛著你 帶著夢想前進
珍惜那最初炙熱的心 最親愛的你

Good composer, i can feel her happiness through her voice.. Happy marriage~

那一年，這一天

那一年　帶不到今天　無所謂誰拖誰欠
也許男人對愛的極限　是繼續相信永遠
也許女人對愛的極限　是繼續相信永遠

這一天　回不到那年　小小幸福我們膩好幾天
如果愛逃不過改變　不如承認對於單純的愛戀　我們都太懷念
如果愛逃不過改變　不如承認愛戀　　我們都太懷念
~love~

important?

have u ever think of this?

健康

财富是买不到健康的。

如果我从小就知道这道理，我现在就会很无忧无虑了。电视剧说：当上天给你一样东西时，他会夺走你另一样东西。上天是公平的吗？

小时候天不怕，地不怕，当然健康也要排队。但，很奇怪的是，长大了，却想要活得健康些，明白生命可贵这道理，可真不容易。

失去的健康，会被什么取代呢？或许，必须付上一辈子的愧疚来补偿。好对不起你啊身体。

到了这一刻，原来我最注重的，是健康。或许人都是想得到他们得不到的东西。我也不例外。还有好长的路要走，既然有了心理准备，那就勇敢的走下去吧。日子还是要过。

明言

讓女人念念不忘的是感情，
讓男人念念不忘的是感覺。

感情隨著時間沉澱，
感覺隨著時間消失 。

終其是不同的物種,所以誰又能明白誰的深愛，誰又能理解誰的離開。


不要等被愛了，才去愛；
不要等擁有許多，才開始分享；
不要等別人受傷了，才乞求原諒；
不要等分開了，才想到挽回。
不要等到寂寞了，才明白朋友的價值；

不要等待，因為，你不知道等待需要花費多少的時間。


時間會慢慢沉澱，
有些人會在心底慢慢模糊。
學會放手，
自己的幸福需要自己成全。

Keep Eyes Open

But now we've stepped into a cruel world
Where everybody stands and keeps score
Keep your eyes open

Everybody's waiting for you to breakdown
Everybody's watching to see the fallout

No body wanna see u to success than others, they are waiting u to breakdown and fall out. Just stands there and keeps score, since we r in the cruel world. We can make it, just like it is...

Mid night

Once again, i was in UKM, looking at the sky.
I wondering would this be my last chance to see star blinking.. Many things in my mind~
Maybe i cannot change the past, but i can determine my future...

Have a sweet dream, good nite world.

My 4 years in UKM

When everything comes to an end, I feel so bad. So bad that i got a lot of memories in this place. What i gonna be after i leave this place?

Looking at the faces that I gonna miss soon, looking at the places that i usually lepak, looking at the faculty which is my second home, and looking at myself, have i changed? All the memories are with me, it drag me from stepping out from this comfort zone. I know life is still moving on, i know our gate is opening soon, and i know i gotta run with all resort that equipped with me and gonna fight with the weapons with me. But still, can't accept the fact that it's no turn back time. Too soon for me?

Ya, i gotta finish 1/4 of my life, or maybe 1/3? end of the day i found myself got nothing, i have to move on to another new chapter of my life, and start all over again, from zero. yea... that's what i get after all this while.

Now i in the process of jumping out from the comfort zone, i might be hurt, lost , even change. Anyway, never try never know,we would not know how far we can reach without trying..

No matter how hard the situation is, never give up, because the return might be fruitful and well rewarded. Pray for good destiny, and determination to complete the future challenges. Cheers!

當你離開的時候

我只能低著頭發呆　讓回憶滲透腦袋　漸漸變空白 
我把它當作個意外　但內心還想不開　以為我明白　其實你都還在 
我想起了遇見你的時候　想起你眼神中的溫柔 想起了我們第一次牽手　我閉上眼 
想起當時你懷裡的顫抖　似乎那麼害怕失去我 然而到後來我什麼都沒有　當你離開的時候 
我可以裝作已釋懷　他對我也算關懷　他看不出來 
我知道這樣不應該　在他身上找依賴　算不算是種出賣　因為你一直在 
我想起了遇見你的時候　想起你眼神中的溫柔 想起了我們第一次牽手　我閉上眼 
想起當時你懷裡的顫抖　似乎那麼害怕失去我 然而到後來我什麼都沒有　當你離開的時候 
我想起你親吻我的時候　想起你眼神中的沉默 想起了我們平靜地分手　我閉上眼 
想起當時你每一個承諾　把你整個心都交給我 然而到後來我什麼都沒有　
越是沒有你越是心痛 
我想起了遇見你的時候　想起你眼神中的溫柔 想起了我們第一次牽手　我閉上眼 
想起當時你懷裡的顫抖　似乎那麼害怕失去我 然而到後來我什麼都沒有　當你離開的時候

当上帝创造阿当和夏娃时，为什么他不把爱创造得更明确点？ 相爱是件苦差，当爱不是完整时，它总有零碎掉落在某个角落，而那个零碎，也有变成完整的一天。

The end of Mock Trial

Finally i ended my mock trial, although i lose the case. I have to admit that it is not easy to reach prima facie case. I must admit that defence counsel is better than us. Surprise element every where. Especially in tense environment at mock court. It's ok it's alright. It's just a mock.

Many things happened just bcos to prepare this mock. Now i know we can't judge a person by it's cover. Frz can be enemy and enemy can be frz also. But, i believe in karma. When someone do this to u, definitely she will pay bc the same too in future.

Apart from winning and losing, ethic and courtesy are totally lose. Nvm, at least i know the true colour of someone. Remember, what u did is what u gonna pay in future. can i say u r a hypocrite? at least i know u r.

I lose the case, but i win the friendship among us.

失恋陪衬

朋友心仪的对象找到了另一半，今天的她心碎了。。

身为朋友的我，也很无奈，我根本就帮不上忙。可是，我唯一能做的，就是在她失落，难过时陪她。虽然我很忙，而且是忙到半条命了，我还是义无反顾地带她去散散心。这，是我能做的。我带不回她的对象。她，还是要靠自己走下去。

失恋嘛，我真的不知道要怎样安慰。身为过来人的我很清楚失恋的痛，只有当事人feel 到。哎。。。总要些时间把过去忘掉。 遗憾的事，有些时候，两个人走不下去了，到了分叉路，还是必须忍着眼泪，放掉手，继续走。人生嘛！等爱的人很多。就像她说的，是时候醒了。当发现到为一个人做的事变到很多余时，她知道，是时候抽离了。

给自己时间吧。孤独万岁，失恋无罪！

分享

我只想把我的感动
分一半到你心里的天空

复杂的课题2-给伤心的你

喂！答应唱给你听，下次有机会我们去k歌吧。

即使再伤心，也不会是世界末日咯。安慰你，我又不能陪你。你要好好冷静的思考了。

加油咯！！！

复杂的课题

四年过去了，我一直以为我们可以是好朋友。你不知道我很珍惜你这个朋友吗？

我收到了你去年寄给我的生日卡。说也奇怪，竟然是去年的，而我今年的生日才收到。或许，你默默为我做的事，我都不知道。一如往常，你还是最后一个祝福我的。今年，我想我们还是无法见面，不是吗？可以有你这朋友，是我的福气，那你呢？

你说过当有一天你能把我当朋友时，你会add我。我以为四年里，你能找到你的人生，你找到了吗？当我以为你找到时，我发现了你播的“那个男人”。你，好吗？

五年前，在补习班遇见了你，第一个表情还是难以忘怀，哈哈！不知为什么，和你真的很好聊。也很好吵。我们都知道我和你都只是平行线。或许，太了解了。就连我们一起看的那次烟火，多璀璨多美，都无法进入心底。

偶尔想念，不知道是想念当初那感觉，还是你。每当翻开你给我的礼物，我真的觉得我这当朋友的付出太少了。你，后悔吗？

如果下次再遇见你，会是什么场面？或许，我们需要的，只是一杯咖啡的时间。

你，不知在哪里的你，要保重，知道吗？我相信，我们会相遇的。祝福你，朋友！

End of holiday, war begins..

I dunno y holiday always end so fast. Time flies, tomorrow is another new day.

Ya, i did enjoy this holiday.. erm... 3 days maybe? another 4 days i keep on working out my mock trial. Tiring, yet i have to accept it.

Holiday ends, means i only have another half semester to go. I never think of my working life. Is part of human life? Can i follow my own path?  but the things that need my concern right now is my mock trial, exam, finding master. Once master, forever master. Just wish me get a good master :-)

問by李宗盛

誰讓你心動　誰讓你心痛　誰會讓你偶爾想要擁他在懷中
誰又在乎你的夢　誰說你的心思他會懂　誰為你感動

如果女人　總是等到夜深　無悔付出青春　他就會對你真
是否女人　永遠不要多問　她最好永遠天真　為她所愛的人

誰讓你心動　誰讓你心痛　誰會讓你偶爾想要擁他在懷中
誰又在乎你的夢　誰說你的心思他會懂　誰為你感動

只是女人　容易一往情深　總是為情所困　終於越陷越深
可是女人　愛是她的靈魂　她可以奉獻一生　為她所愛的人


愛是她的靈魂，她可以奉獻一生，為她所愛的人。女人好伟大。当然，爱，也很伟大。需要透过一生的奉献来证明。九把刀说过：“青春就像一場大雨，即使感冒了，也盼望再回頭淋它淋一次". 爱也一样。即使伤痕累累，不后悔那段曾经爱过。

motivation

When tired, we need some motivation to keep us moving on. And, i love this way~trip~

Maldives, my dream destination. I always wish to reach there and feel the fresh air, see the blue blue sea and sky and the fluffy cloud, and the greeny coconut tree, all by myself, not through this picture any more.

I want to be there, in the cottage on the sea. Wake up in the morning when fresh air blows and once i open my eyes, i see the blue blue sky. The fishes in the sea saying :"hello & good morning" to me. What a good day to me!

Wearing batik and bikini, sitting on the beach, reading a novel with silent mind, having a coconut shake under the coconut tree in the afternoon. I walking along the beach when sunset. I looking at the shinny stars when the sky turn dark. Great!

If I managed to reach there before it disappear, i think, i have seen the most beautiful nature scene of our lovely mother earth in my life.

I will be there, one day. :-)
 

疲惫的身影

长长的身影，看见天空渐渐的暗去，知道又是疲惫的一天。

当人类了，心情也不会好起来。

或许休息久了，所以想休息。

如果脑可以再装多一些，我是否会聪明点呢？

现实

当你有用处时，用到你的人就会找你。当你没有利用价值时，人影都没有。

委曲求全绝对不会是好办法，有时候我在想，没什么比得上陪玩的人。因为那是欢乐的回忆。而一起共患难的人，都会在一声“谢谢”后被抛诸脑后。当时的感激最后也化成乌有。可笑！

要认清身边的人，只要一些小动作就显示了。不多，一件事就足够了。

当现实是生活的一分子，我只能说：“正常的”。

我愛你那麼多

我愛你那麼多

作詞：姚謙　
作曲：陳偉　
編曲：陳偉

看黑夜天空　想起你的手　指過的那個星球
淚已不常流　因為已接受　分開了　你是快樂的

不幸福的人到現在還很多
至少你不是其中一個　在我退出後

我愛你那麼多　所以那麼痛
當我發現我　擋在你逐愛的途中
我愛你那麼多　愛得那麼痛
每次入睡後　都作了同一個夢　你轉身輪廓

命運暗示過　你的愛永遠　像那顆遙遠的星球
你是誠實的　我現在明白了　受傷了　人才會成熟

從來不知道自己如此的軟弱
當我發現不敢再愛了　那一刻才懂

那一顆你指過的遙遠星球
像一個我永遠都到達不了的一個夢


I, love u so much but u never know.... Tat's y it hurt so much.. 

傻子

今晚夜空孤寂，月亮出现缺口，我望了望，向前走，不知我的悲伤，能否填满它的空虚。


少了星群衬托，它正在哭诉，这场顷湓大雨，它悄悄地弥漫，我已感觉到，与它的接触。

至情

想起以往她对我说她家里的感情时，我知道她很爱她的家人。面对突如其来的离别，她，一定很难受了。她爸爸的离去，对她，甚至整家人来说，都是一种打击。

那天下午她抽哭着告诉我她很担心，她不知道她爸爸发生了什么事，被送进医院了。我心也一沉，安慰了几句，然后为她的父亲祈祷。 那天晚上，接到她的讯息说她爸去世了。我，更是震撼了几分钟。。。连忙通知朋友。。我也束手无措。。

我当时也很沉，为什么那么突然呢？ 她接电话时也故作坚强的一一回答我的问题，不能及时当场给她拥抱，我觉得很伤心，很替她伤心。

好在朋友一致说要过去她那，很多人搭了白金，我们也很匆忙的开车。 那天的天是灰色的。下着毛毛雨。路途遥远，但，还是平安的抵达了。

那晚，见到她时，我即刻伸手握着她。她手很冷，同样也很紧紧地握着我的手。天，还在下着雨。我们慰问她了几句，提及她爸如何突然离世，她的泪在眼眶打转着，握得我更紧。我知道当下她就要崩溃了。我连忙转移话题，因为我知道她不会想在那么多人面前落泪，她还有好多事要处理。我好想给她大大的拥抱，她需要一个很贴心的安慰，但，我收起了这念头，我想，当一切办妥时，我才好好的让她大哭一场。。

雪韵，要坚强哦！你已经表现的很好了，你爸会为你感到安慰的。他，一定在天堂的另一端，守护着你。而他留给你的，就是这么多年来，美好的回忆和他的爱。。

节哀顺便，孩子！

second for reading

Being a Happy and Successful Lawyer

Stephen C. Ellis is the managing partner at the law firm of Tucker, Ellis & West.

What follows is the commencement address he gave at Case Western reserve School of Law in Cleveland, Ohio on May 19, 2008.

The title of his remarks is "On Being a Happy(and Successful) Lawyer"

***

Thank you Dean Simson. Even after that gracious introduction, I can guess what most of you are thinking. Who is this guy?

The most informative parts of my background are not in my public bio, so let me tell you a little more to help set the stage for what I’ll be talking about. First, I am a lifetime Cleveland resident. I am married to my high school sweetheart of 40 years ago, and in 1972, I graduated from this great law school.

Other than talking my wife into marrying me and our terrific sons and grandchildren, attending this school is hands down the most important event of my life. My three years here changed everything for me. The sort of squared away corporate type you see standing here this afternoon bears no resemblance to the bell bottomed, lamb chop side-burned college kid of 40 years ago. I look at photos of me and my friend back then and it looks like we were transported here from a strange place very far away.

Before showing up here in the fall of 1969, I was the fun guy your parents wanted you to stay away from. In fact I essentially majored in fun at Denison University, and with graduation looming I was looking for something to do besides start working. A bright enough student bored by academics, I took the LSAT’s on a flyer, slightly hung over (to my earlier point), and did great, good enough to get me on the waiting list at Case. Back then, when Case was just starting to become a highly respected school, the waiting list was pretty short and didn’t take long to clear, so I got in.

By the third week I was totally hooked. I loved law school and the idea that I would know the rules of how society worked — like someone gave me the back of the Scrabble box. I did very well at our school and for the first time, started to think of myself as someone who could actually accomplish things.

In the summer of ’71 I took a job as a summer clerk at what was Arter & Hadden, a 70 lawyer Cleveland firm. Starting as a trial lawyer. I went on to be a transactional M&A/finance type and was able to build a successful, really fun practice. At the too early age of 43 I became managing partner, and ran the place for ten years as it grew to a nearly 500 lawyer firm. In 2000 a friend and colleague took over as managing partner and three years later in 2003, that nearly 160-year-old firm, and my only job for 30 years, collapsed.

Now if it’s true that we only learn from our mistakes, with all the degrees that surround me, I am without a doubt the best educated person in the room. But this story has an unbelievably happy ending, because the Cleveland office of Arter & Hadden didn’t scatter and collapse into finger pointing lawsuits like virtually every other failed firm. Our lawyers turned down all sorts of great offers to jump ship. We put our money up, signed personally for the bank loan to get started, and chose to stay together as a team. All but perhaps 5 or 6 of our partners, associates and staff, maybe 200 people, threw their lots in together, and we formed Tucker Ellis & West, which is a truly great place to practice.

So, it’s been 36 years since I was sitting where you are, waiting for someone like me to finish, and I still love being a lawyer. Every day brings new issues to wrestle, I spend my time with bright, completely engaged people, and all of my clients are people I’m proud to call my friends. I find myself very close to my lifelong goal of not spending one second doing things I don’t want to do or being with people I don’t want to be with.

I tell you all of this not to brag - well at least that’s not the only reason - but because our new firm rose out of some hard simple truths about what’s good and not so good about being a lawyer today.

The fact is our profession has become increasingly unhappy over the past couple of decades. I am convinced the vast majority of that unhappiness derives from a singleseemingly innocuous event in the late 1980’s: The American Lawyer magazine began publishing the AM LAW 100, and listed the profits per partner of the 100 largest firms. Virtually all of the firms in this country immediately bought in to that statistic as the only credible measure of success. The game was on - we lawyers would now take our measure almost entirely from money, at least in terms of what was publicly discussed. Without question, integrity, service and professionalism were important, but how we measured ourselves was money.

This was a terrible mistake and now, more and more of us see its dark implications: the bragging rights on how many billable hours we charge (and the matching lost weekends and evenings); rates that are topping $1000 an hour; and clients who believe their files are being worked to death by armies of inexperienced associates. All of this so the largest firms can bump their statistical rankings and everybody else can compare themselves to the published stars.

But the worst of all this is: that we’ve chosen simply money, as our measure of success. It’s too simple to say, “Money is the root of all evil” because it’s not. And I know that the absence of money is a pretty good predicator of unhappiness. But money, just money all by itself, does not provide a sense of worth or accomplishment, or even peace of mind. The fact is, it’s in our DNA to always want a little more, and getting more only feeds the need to get a little more.

Here’s the formula on personal budgets that if you don’t already know, you soon will. I know all of your parents know this. And you should write this formula down because it’s as immutable as a law of physics. Your monthly expenses always equal your monthly income plus $300. No matter what, we’re all looking for “just a little more”.

Now we’re going to do a ten second experiment. Take a moment and reflect on the occasions when you felt truly happy - and please don’t name ‘listening to this talk”. [8 seconds of silence]

I submit that not one of you is thinking about money or material things. Our best times are always with people we care about, doing things that bring us closer together. But knowing that, we let ourselves climb on this treadmill, running harder and harder, like that donkey trying to catch the carrot on a stick.

I believe this is beginning to change, at least in the arena where lawyers have to keep increasing the hours they devote to work. Hours are being recognized as an irrational measure of value. Nobody calls a lawyer asking them to please spend twenty hours on a project. Clients want to pay us for what we do, not how long it takes us to do it.

In fact, a growing minority of lawyers and clients are starting to move away from hours as the basis for fees. The feature of Tucker Ellis & West about which I am most proud is that we have no billable hour requirement. We value our people for what they accomplish. And that decision has been hugely liberating for us.

I submit there’s much more to being a satisfied lawyer than making a lot of money. Back when I was running Arter & Hadden I would speak to our incoming class of associates and suggest that if their career goal as lawyers was to get rich, they should seriously consider a career change. My point was that most law practices by their nature are designed to produce a comfortable living, not make us rich. We don’t take big financial risks, we don’t make critical business decisions, we are fundamentally well educated consultants.

If you’ve decided to become a lawyer solely to make money if to you it’s simply a job I fear you’ll hate it. As a career and a calling it’s great, and unbelievably interesting, but as simply a job, it’s way too hard and stressful. It’s the people, the pace and the endless puzzles of the law that make being a lawyer fulfilling. If you want tons of money for working twenty hours a day and nausea-inducing stress, Wall Street investment banking may be just the thing . In that business the grand old men are burnt out at 45.

Over the past few years I’ve come to some conclusions on finding guideposts that will give us lawyers the best chance of being successful, in the sense of truly enjoying our lives and careers as lawyers. They are simple, some might say “trite”. But 36 years of listening to happy and desperately unhappy lawyers and watching colleagues succeed as lawyers and people, and some fail, I know that these may be cliché’s, but I also know they are true.

I’m going to talk about a handful of these “truisms”, only a couple of which I’ve made up, on being a successful lawyer in the sense of being fulfilled. Just so you know how close I am to wrapping up, there are nine of these, and they’re pretty short.

First, be someone others count on. Most folks talk a good game; very few come through.Clients come to you because they have a situation they cannot solve on their own. Most are not looking for an analysis of the law. Most want you to solve a problem. So solve it, don’t add to their problem by being hard to find, by missing deadlines, or by simply describing their problem back to them. It’s like going to the dentist when you have a toothache. You want it fixed and you want it fixed now. That’s what a client wants every time they talk to you. Walk in with a problem, walk out with a solution.

What they want is someone they can count on to make their lives simpler, to accomplish what they want accomplished. If you can simply do that, you’ll be sought out as an extraordinarily effective lawyer. And there is a real difference in your sense of self between being simply a resource; somebody who knows the law, and the person that people count on to solve their problems.

Second - be an interesting person, for your own good and so that clients think of you as more than a lawyer. A decent definition of hell is a dinner party companion who is a first year lawyer on the day after his or her first trial. Law stuff is interesting mostly to lawyers. In fact, it’s real interesting to lawyers, so that’s what we talk about all the time, just like you talk about law school all the time.

Force yourself to do be able to talk about more than law - read books, go to movies, be part of politics, go to lectures. You’ll meet people, you’ll be able to talk about things that other people find interesting, and you won’t burn out on your job.

The horror stories you hear about associates working 2500 hours a year? You will be surprised when you see how much of that is self imposed. These young lawyers get caught up in the chase and find that what they’re doing more interesting than anything else- so they become that boring self absorbed dining companion. The world’s full of great people with jobs and hobbies that are just as demanding and just as fascinating as yours, (assuming you make yourself get a hobby). Learn about them. You’ll be happier and much more fun to be with.

Here is another obvious but ignored truth. Look out for yourself. Nobody cares about you like you do except maybe your parents, and you won’t be working for them. My late and very wise father used to tell me to not worry about what people were thinking about me, because they weren’t. They were thinking about themselves.

Your employer may have a mentoring program, but nobody is mentored into a success. Mentors are important, but they are only a resource. Accept that you are in charge of your success.

So if you think you need experience in an area, make it your business to go get it. Ask somebody; don’t wait for it to come along. Don’t wait for somebody to notice that you’re missing an important skill. Ask for a promotion - people aren’t watching what you do as carefully as you think or hope.

Also, determination matters. It matters more than intellect. The streets are littered with directionless geniuses with unexecuted good ideas. . Woody Allen had it pretty dead on when be said that 90% of success is simply showing up. You won’t suddenly have a great career. Nobody ever does. The secret is simple- great careers are the result of day after day deciding to do good work and being someone who others count on.

Be enthusiastic. Because we deal in rules, it’s real easy to fall into cataloging all the reasons something won’t work or why somebody shouldn’t do something. In fact, we lawyers take pride in being the first one to find fault with an idea. Makes us look smart. In my days as managing partner I would roll out a strategic initiative, and I could see my partner’s eyes starting to spin. Who would get the prize for being the first one to spot the flaw?

Clients want to do things - they don’t call you so they can not do things. They want to stay in the borders of the law, but they want to be told how to do what they want to do. And they want to know that you’re happy to be part of what they’re doing. There is no better way to end a client meeting than saying “This is going to be great” and to mean it. It’s fun to be charged up - to add energy to every conversation.

Trust yourself. You are a very bright person or you wouldn’t be here today. I think among the most important conclusions I came to as a young lawyer was that if I didn’t understand something, it was because the thing in fact didn’t make sense, not because I was stupid. Most of the times I’ve found myself in hot water it’s because I let a conversation continue past the point where I understood what was being said. And virtually every time I would say “stop, I’m not following this,” someone would come up to me after the meeting and say “Boy I’m glad you said that. I had no idea what we were talking about.”

Get involved. Organize the reunion or the bicycle race. Chair the church committee. Help people who have not enjoyed your good fortune. You have spent three years learning how to organize your thoughts, analyze a situation, and articulate action plans. Use those skills everywhere in your life. Stuff will get done, people will appreciate your initiative, and you will derive great satisfaction from making things better.

Here are my final two unappreciated but clearly true truths: The toughest lawyer is not the one who is the most obnoxious. Clients will say they want a tough son of a gun to make somebody life’s miserable, a real bulldog, etc.

Don’t be that person. It’s been my 100% uniform experience that the bulldog only adds time, expense, stress and confusion to an otherwise inevitable result. Even clients can’t stand them after a couple of months. You want to be tough? Have the best preparation on the facts, the law and the strategy. Judges care only about those things, not a whit for bluster. Bullies are jerks, they wreck the profession for everyone, and you can beat them every time.

And finally and hands down most importantly, and please pass this on to your friends and your children, because it’s really important — Be nice and have fun. Just doing that makes life better for everybody, mostly you.

And now really finally, and this is not a truth, but what I think you should do - thank the people who have helped you get to where you are today, and fully enjoy this moment - you have earned it.

I am honored to have this opportunity today and I wish all of you good fortune, and fun, in this great profession. To each of you, “This is going to be great.”

*Be who you are*

美丽的第七天

天灰灰，这几天都是这样子了，不是下雨，就是天黑黑，弄得湿嗒嗒的。 虽然雨能够清洗大地，可是雨一样能够弄脏大地。当太阳出来时就吵着喊热，当雨哗啦啦来了又嫌麻烦。。。

人就是那么矛盾不是吗？一件事情的发生不尽是坏事，可是人却往往爱把它归类。。 分类的，是我们想法的角度而以。凡是两面看，好的看多一点。。

今天我的思想有点混乱，听了朋友的故事后，她说人的想法会变，想要的东西会变。当另一半不了解她想要的东西时，两人就走不下去了。当最大的难题摊开在太阳底下时，没人妥协，难题就会继续升温。或许，达不到共识是恋人最难超越的障碍。

当两个人想要到达不同的目标，除了牺牲，不然就是各走各的路。恋人到达分叉路口唯一的出口就是分手。要说“我要把你写在我的人生里，和你有个幸福的结局”然后牵手一起走， 还是“我只能把你放在我心中”潇洒的挥挥手呢？ 这，是你想要的吗？

个性再倔强，道别时还是会辛酸难过的。 舍得吗？夜深人静时只有影子陪你渡过。耐得了寂寞吗？她说，爱情是个复杂的科目，怎样也学不会。

或许他们只是累了，也许还相爱，但，没人去维系彼此的感觉，没人愿意多做一份努力，一份忍让。

我忽然想起那“最美丽的第七天”，第一天遇见你，第二天爱上你，第三天和你在一起，第四天牵起你的手，第五天吻你，第六天嫁给你，第七天就一辈子了。如果爱情就只有七天，我想大家拥有的都是美好的回忆，对吗？

陪着我的

就是那么快，我跑到了我大学生涯的最后一圈。突然，我想放慢脚步 ， 慢慢的和朋友一起好好的呼吸着空气中的氧气。 对这大学有的是留恋，但对未来有的是恐惧感。


4年，真的不短也不长，人生到此一游真的不枉此生了。当然，我们也一起长大了，很开心在这道路上遇见她们和他们，吵吵闹闹，又相亲相爱，哈哈！我们一起面对了当初所害怕的法律，我相信我们各自都能面对未来的挑战的。


网路上是这么说的：其实，陪着大雄的不是宜静，是哆啦a梦；其实，陪着小丸子的不是小玉，是花轮；其实，陪着柯南的不是小兰，是灰原哀；其实，陪着小樱的不是知世也不是小狼，是小可；其实.....其实，陪着我的不是我爱的人，是爱我的人；突然好想念这些童年不懂的回忆。。 我想，不爱我的人都不会要陪着我的，所以心存感激那些爱我的人。我也会陪着你们。。

情歌。感动

*多麼想念你*戴佩妮

我多麼想念你   想念你無私愛我的勇氣
在慌亂城市裡　在昏暗深夜裡
你像是月光照亮每條小徑
我多麼想念你   想念你親口說你是愛我地
當喧鬧都暫停　都當人群都散去
你總是　為我開著那一盞燈  等我回去
我多麼忌妒你忌妒你我是多麼愛你地
不想讓你擔心　不要再有懷疑
所以我要親口對你說
我好想你 ~


*我們沒有在一起* 劉若英 

世界太複雜 你說單純很難
我當然都明白

可是呀只有你曾陪我在最初的地方
只有你才能了解我要的夢從來不大
我們沒有在一起至少還像情侶一樣
我痛的瘋的傷的在你面前哭得最慘

我知道你也不能帶我回到那個地方
你說你現在很好而且喜歡回憶很長
我們沒有在一起至少還像家人一樣
總是遠遠關心遠遠分享

我們沒有在一起至少還像朋友一樣
你遠遠的關心 其實更長

*愛情獨秀* Kopi 林國偉

一步一步走入沉默
我知道你帶著僞裝的笑容
選擇繼續不問是否
如果你也聽説 簾幕落下不代表劇終

説好爲了夢想拼搏
你卻在我不經意之下失蹤
多希望你依然故我
不須牽挂什麽 努力實現每一個衝動

愛情不是付出了許多
就能得到相同的溫柔
別把我當成朋友 我要你懂
糾纏在這種關係之中

愛情就像是一支獨秀
有時候沒人在你左右
怎樣都覺得不夠 找個藉口
讓你自由 屬於你的天空

把回憶留給昨天的你和我
快樂變成泡沫 傷心時最痛


*學不會* 林俊傑

我相信愛　能證明一切
夠真心　會超越時間
多付出　也多了喜悅　讓幸福蔓延
總是學不會　再聰明一點
記得自我保護　必要時候講些　善意謊言
總是學不會　真愛也有現實面
不是誰情願　就能夠解決
一次爭吵　一個心結　累積著改變　
內心疏遠　足夠秒殺　外表多濃烈
才發現愛　不代表一切
再真心　也會被阻絕
這世界　天天有詭雷　隨時會爆裂
還是學不會　少浪漫一點
拼命著想的事　未必帶來感動　或被感謝
還是學不會　解釋我最傷　最累
痛死都不願　怪誰

不是學不會　只是覺得愛　太美
值得去沉醉　流淚

不需要理由吗？

西游记里的孙悟空说：曾經有一份真誠的愛擺在我的面前，但是我沒有珍惜， 等到失去的時候才後悔莫及，塵世間最痛苦的事莫過於此。

这句话说让我想起“爱我的人和我爱的人”之理论，现在我好像明白了“你不会和最爱的人一起，而爱你的人会陪你一生。” 就因为错过了最爱，才会珍惜后来的爱。而那个最爱，其实是幻想中的爱，因为有遐想而想要一起。 和自己最爱的人恋爱都是很美好的事，只是这种美好不会太长久“不要在乎永恒，只需在乎曾经拥有”。

 套用菩提子的理論：「愛一個人需要理由嗎？」 只是如果那份爱是用一辈子的寂寞厮守着，那就真的需要理由了。。永恒的是日月星辰，人太脆弱了，所以不要乞求永恒的守候。

解放，新年快乐！

终于考试来到了尾声。。 又是时候放空自己。。可以好好的休息，真好。

但，考试完毕，也代表着我和工作不远了。 是时候计划了吗？

最讨厌要planning，可是自己的人生要自己主宰，要为以后的自己负责任。所以嘛，讨厌长大。

休息是为了走更长远的路。新年快乐，假期快乐~

New Year Mood

考试也差不多到尾声了。。这代表我和社会大学更靠近了。。但，也一味着新年要到了！！

我的心情就已经转变成新年mood.。最后一张乱乱来吧！哈哈。。。

长大的孩子，已经没有了童年时那么开心了。。 新年来临，我很高兴，就只因为要放假了。。 能够休息正好。 以我这副懒骨头，我很难想象我做工的情景。应该会生不如死吧？哈哈。。还是要挑个金龟嫁了算？哈哈。。可是金龟也不会看上我吧？唉。。靠自己好咯。。

如果世上有神灯，我的愿望是回到过去。。我想要过的再精彩！
但回忆始终是人生成长的足印。如果事事太完美，今天就不会耿耿于怀于过去，也不会从失败，痛苦，跌倒中学习。坦诚面对今天的自己，再无厘头地遐想和改变结局，只会令自己活在过去。

这几天有小小的郁闷，心情很差，只怪那梦太清晰了。。但我也很懊恼，明明是场梦，为何我要那么在意呢？或许心理数值很差，连不真实的事也要缭乱思绪让自己处在低潮状态。。

所以，今年的我，要更好好的修养心灵，为它添点氧气，也要让过去升华。祝福我吧！

To Sir With Love

Finally i met 2 wise lecturers  in my 4 years study life. They let me know the different between lecturer and practitioner..

Guess which one I mentioned about? I believe that every one can teach on academic. but not every one can teach us on how to become a better person with high dignity. i like the way he taugh, i like his grandmother story. Every story contains a lesson to us. He can gather our intention when he talk. i think this is persuasive skill that possess by a great practitioner? Hope that some day i can be like him. hehe.. If he is a member of parliament, i definitely will vote for him. He taught us not to mention people ethnic when address some one. This is the real 1 Malaysia that i can foresee :-) Of course, his bmw 7 series also impress me .. haha...

Another lecturer, my idol, no photo here, but i can remember his slang. haha.. My idol, why? Every word come out from him is powerful. He used his words to make people understand, the exact word. I impress on his oral skill , his confidence, and the way he think, the way he address his opinion, the way he analyse, he can persuade me very well and there is no room for me to think the other way round. Geng! 

They let me know that practitioner lecturers is better than lecturers.

新一年,旧的我

新的一年, 快快回想自己做了什么事,达成了什么愿望..

1) 最高兴的事: 我不再是牙套妹了~

2) 最伤心的事: 我没了公公..

3) 进步奖 : 终于不是局限在课本上,总算有到圈子里兜兜看看..

4)难分难舍奖: 天下无不散之筵席, 好多朋友都毕业了...

5) EVIL 奖: 初恋结婚了,但我并不希望他幸福..

6）难忘奖：no....

not bad， 至少有收获~